Can a woman still get information if she is still married?

She needs to call the police department herself because she is the spouse and you will not be given the info because you are not related to him. I think that it nice that you are just trying to be a good caring friend and mean well, but only family, victims, employers that signed a w4 and I 9 form with an SSN or an attorney is allowed that kind of confidential information. She has to get that info herself with his social security number.